I planted our vegetable garden at our new home and saved my tomato plants from withering away (hurray!) and we finished our move and have unpacked most of our things in our new rental home…
Being away from all of the clouds of mental fogginess that a constant diet of social media provides helped to loosen up my “thinking wheels” a bit and let my thoughts flow more unconstrained. For a while now I’ve nicknamed taking a break from social media “mind fasting,” because that’s what it feels like – fasting, but for our thoughts. Me and a cousin have done several of these fasts together over the last year and we both just love it. We’re totally starting a new trend. (Not really! *chuckle*) But honestly, it is so nice. It’s refreshing. I love being able to quiet some of the excess noise we generate in our thoughts from sometimes being a bit overly-connected to way too much information to process than we can even keep up with. So purge all the unnecessary stuff jamming up my thinking gears? Sounds good to me! This is something I love to do regularly, and when I can remember to do so, I try to set my goal for checking in with what’s going on in my social media feed once a week, but that’s still a work in progress.
So I took a bit of a break from social media. But I caved at about 2 weeks out of my one-month goal. That’s okay. It happens. I’m not going to be hard on myself over it. Been there, done that, and it helps nothing. The important thing was I tried, and in a way I succeeded. Even if I didn’t reach my original goal of 4 weeks, I did manage two weeks! Not my personal best, but still pretty good. And I got to quite my mind a bit. That was nice!
My thoughts didn’t quiet altogether (do they ever?) but they were able to shift from much of the unimportant information constantly swirling around inside of my brain to the things that had a bit more substance and meaning. The things that are most important in life. I like those moments. Those reflective, meditative moments. They are often exactly what I need, especially to put things in life into perspective. I once heard someone call it, “quieting the mind to let the soul speak.” I think it’s probably closer to something that of quieting our mind to let us hear the still, small voice; the whisperings of the Spirit, as well as being able to hear our own hearts.
The quieting of my mind gave my soul a chance to speak. The things of the heart spoke. I thought about the move we just finished. I thought about motherhood and my children and all the things they teach me just by being their mother. I thought about adversity and the broad spectrum of struggles we all go through in life. I thought about happiness.
I never imagined that becoming a mother (for at least a few short moments every now and again) would allow me to experience a glimpse of what it’s like to be a kid all over again. I would never have found a way to experience the magic and wonder of life that way again had I not had children to remind me and show me how. They are my little examples, my little teachers. They don’t even know it. They are oblivious that anyone is teaching anyone about the mysteries and meaning of life. But hey give me a glimpse. They remind me what truly matter most.
I hope they read this someday. My kids are some of the most amazing people I know simply because they still see life through the eyes of childhood, something I have been trying to relearn from them for a few years. I think oftentimes as we get older we mistake growing up and putting on the jacket of maturity as having to give up childlike joys. It’s true we need to mature in all the right ways, but I don’t think we need to or are even supposed to give up so much of what we leave behind in childhood, like appreciating the world the way small children do, or the amazing amount of gratitude that toddlers have, or truly being able to love the little things in life, or to love others they way they do, or to forgive each other so quickly and sincerely as they do with each other, or the faith that they have. Let me tell you, when they believe in something, it doesn’t matter what anyone else says, to them, whatever it is in their imaginative little world that they believe in with all their heart, boy, do they stick to it with all the loyalty they have. I find a deep appreciation for that kind of trust and commitment, in a paralleled way relating to religious faith. Goes to show that there are lessons and examples to pick up on everywhere, even from the most humble and simple around us. It is amazing to me how someone with any amount of life experience can still learn so much from someone who seems to have so little.